17 Women on Why They Actually Love Giving Blowjobs

​Ever wondered if she’s actually enjoying herself?

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If you enjoy going down on the woman in your life, there's a good chance she wants to return the favor. But have you ever wondered if she's actually enjoying herself when she gives you a blowjob? After all, the oral sex move has "job" in its title—it's only natural to second guess her excitement as she makes her way below your belt.

Of course, every person enjoys different things in the bedroom, and it's impossible to make a blanket statement about whether or not women like giving blowjobs. But we can tell you this much: some women definitely enjoy performing oral sex on their partners. Just peruse the hundreds of responses to this Reddit thread, which asked: “Women who like giving blowjobs, why?”

The women who responded had a variety of reasons for their love of giving head. On a psychological level, some said they enjoyed the power of having their partner at their mercy, and being able to control their pleasure with the slightest tongue flick. On a physical level, others said they liked the taste and the feeling of a smooth penis in their mouth. And then there's the emotional side to blowjobs: a number of respondents said they use oral sex to show their partner how much they love and appreciate them.

Just remember, not every woman likes to give oral sex. If that's your partner, be respectful, and don't worry—you can always get yourself a blowjob machine.

Here's what 17 women had to say about why they like giving blowjobs.


"Because I like receiving, and it would be shitty of me to expect enthusiasm down there if I wasn't willing to go to town on a guy's junk myself." [via]

    "Turns me on, makes me feel sexy. I love feeling a guy grow hard for me. I suppose its also a control thing." [via]

    “I feel in control... but most importantly, I just love pleasing him. My boyfriend is currently working 65-70 hour weeks, manual labor. He’s exhausted when he comes home. He eats dinner, plays on the computer 30-45 minutes, then drags himself to bed. He’s doing all this so I don’t have to worry about working while I’m in school.

    "So, a few times a week, he gets a BJ. He’s too tired for sex, but that release helps him sleep, and keep his stress levels in check. I occasionally get sex in the process but not like we used to. That’s ok. This season of our lives will be over soon, and things will get back to normal.” [via]

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    "Everything! I love pleasing a man. I love hearing him moan. I love being in control of his pleasure. I love insisting that he relax and let me do this! I love the feeling of him inside of me. I love feeling him grow as he becomes more excited! I love the intimate connection that we form. And I love the taste of cum." [via]

    "It's intimate and deeply satisfying. I like the feeling of having a hard or soft penis in my mouth. It's fulfilling for me." [via]

    "I love sucking it from softness to hardness. It's so exciting feeling it growing in my mouth." [via]

    "I love hearing a man moan and cum because of what I'm doing to him...but the moans are the best part. It sucks when a man isn't vocal." [via]

    "I always enjoyed the feeling of giving pleasure to my partner with oral, but only in the past few years did that grow into more of a serious kink. I only really watch blowjob porn. If I am thinking about sex, it is about blowjobs. If I am having sex, (not always but most of the time,) I am thinking about giving him head. It is pretty much my number one desire in the bedroom now. I love deep-throating the most and all the other frills that go with it. But light teasing sessions are also really great, the slow build up for both of us is very exciting. I have absolutely no idea why I like it so much, I just do, but I have never had any complaints so never really worried." [via]

    "Guys tend to be quiet and reserved with most sex acts, except blow jobs. We get responsive as hell reactions from you in this activity more than any other with minimal effort or personal distraction. Makes a girl feel sexy, and as such more likely to want more. Theres also a sense of power." [via]

    "We have you at our mercy." [via]

    "Cum tastes amazing. There's something to be said about making a man quake when all you do is roll your tongue around and purr to make your mouth vibrate. I also love the fact that it drives him wild when I do it." [via]

    "I've always hated blowjobs and refused to do it. The most recent guy I'm with has an amazing dick. Its so beautiful and looking at it makes my mouth water. I love how it feels in my mouth, how he swears when my mouth goes on him. He smiles so happily and it makes me happy for making him happy." [via]

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    "I'm a pleaser in the bedroom so it really turns me on when I know that I'm turning the guy on. I love preforming oral more than I like receiving it because of the reactions. I wanna see your head fall back, I wanna see your eyes close and open repeatedly, I wanna hear you moan and groan, I want you to tell me what to do and how to please you. Plus foreplay is my favorite part of sex. The simulation and knowing that someone enjoys what I'm doing to them. If my jaw didn't get so cramped easily, I'd do it for as long as the guy wants." [via]

    "I used to find it very boring. I knew it should be fun, because you get to feel in control. But I didn't get that vibe.

    "Then I realized: what's the point of a blow job if he's not tied up?

    "With a new kinkier lover I can't get enough of it. Get those limbs under control with some rope and there isn't anything stopping me from playing for a couple of hours before finally allowing relief :)" [via]

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    "Personally, I enjoy going down in my husband because I not only have control, I am also showing him in action just how much I love and appreciate him and everything he does for our family. I feel that head is a very intimate act, and it definitely helps get the point across.

    "I also enjoy giving him a blow job because it's a great stress reliever as well. I like knowing that he can come home to me and I can make his stress fall away with just one action. But most of all, when I take care of him, he always returns the favor. ;)" [via]

    "The feeling of knowing my attention is solely concentrated on the most tender parts of him and he trusts me. The way he looks at me, the noises and movements he makes, knowing when he is going to orgasm and feeling this satisfaction that it's something we enjoy together. The fact he tastes amazing and it can be hot and slutty or sensual and slow. It's just the fucking best to be honest. And he knows I love it. Like I don't think I would ever say no to it because I just want him to feel that good because of me." [via]

    "I like it because it's both dominating and submissive at the same time. I love the sounds he makes, and the way he grabs my hair. I love the way he feels in my mouth. He is so generous in making me feel good, that I like it doing it for him. And yes, I swallow." [via]

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