Want to have even better sex? You've come to the right place, my friend. We mined hundreds of Men's Health sex and relationships articles to find the all-time best sex tips we've ever given. Maybe you're looking to boost your erections, strengthen your orgasms, and last longer in bed, or maybe you're trying to amp up your skills when it comes to pleasing your partner. Maybe you're curious about exploring anal play, or wanting to know how to bring up your deepest, darkest sexual fantasies with your partner. Whatever it is, we almost certainly have advice that can help.
Here are our 25 best tips and techniques for having the best sex of your life. Don't worry, you can thank us later.
When kissing, don't use your tongue like a dart (in and out, in and out). Instead, try varying motions and amounts of pressure. Head here for more tips on how to perfect your kissing technique.
If you want to last longer during sex, you're not alone. "Premature ejaculation is a problem that affects almost every man at some point in his life," Thomas J. Walsh, M.D., a urologist at the University of Washington, told us. One way to delay ejaculation is by doing kegels. Strengthening the pubococcygeal (PC) muscles of the pelvic floor will help you control your orgasms during sex. For tips on how to do 'em—plus other ways to last longer in bed—click here.
Another way to make sex last longer? Train yourself to delay your orgasm while you're masturbating. Edging—the act of bringing yourself to the brink of orgasm and then stopping all sexual stimulation—is a common technique for avoiding premature ejaculation.
We've called the cock ring the "superfood of sex toys" because it's cheap, easy to use, and can benefit your sex life in so many ways. A snug ring that fits around the base of your penis (and sometimes your testicles, too), it can strengthen your erection, boost your confidence, and make your orgasms more powerful. Opt for a vibrating option, and it could even help stimulate your partner's clitoris or booty.
If you hate the way condoms make you feel during sex, you might not be wearing the right ones, according to sex therapist Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman. When picking a condom, find one that fits like a glove, and look for rubbers that are ribbed or ultra-thin. Condoms are highly effective at preventing pregnancy and STIs, so it's worth finding the one that feels best for you. For recommendations on what to buy, click here.
The prostate is a walnut-sized gland located between the bladder and rectum, and it contains tons of nerve endings. Stimulating the prostate can feel so good, some sexual health experts have dubbed it the "P-spot" or the "male G-spot." Here are our tips for finding it, plus our recommendations for the best prostate massagers on the market.
These butt-centric sex toys can also help stimulate the prostate during partner sex or masturbation, as well as activate those sensitive nerve endings around the opening of the anus. Butt plugs are designed to slide in and stay put—hence the word "plug"—while anal beads can be gradually inserted or pulled out over the course of a sex session. Check out these roundups of our favorite butt plugs and anal beads.
"Lubrication increases the comfort and speed with which you can penetrate the vagina and grind against the clitoris," Ellen Friedrichs, M.A., an adjunct professor of human sexuality at Rutgers University, told Men's Health. "But sometimes, no matter how turned on a woman might be psychologically, she can have trouble getting wet."That's where lube comes in. Try squeezing a few drops onto the tip of your penis before you start intercourse.
We'll let you in on a little secret: lots of women love watching porn. According to a Men's Health survey, 75% of women said they were down to watch porn with a partner during foreplay or sex itself. That said, they may not be into the same type of content you're into, so be sure to discuss your tastes beforehand or scope out some softer-core fare. (Director Erika Lust's LustFilms is a great place to start.)
Sex isn't a race. Take time to explore your partner before you get to intercourse. Not only will it build desire, but it'll help you discover what you and your partner do and don't like in bed. "On its own, sex is pretty mechanical," psychologist and relationship therapist Tracy Thomas, Ph.D., told Men's Health. "Foreplay is where you learn what you like and don’t like."
During foreplay, the genitals are off-limits. Touch the other parts of your partner's body, using fingers, a feather, a silk scarf, or anything that turns them on—and ask them to describe how it feels. This builds the tension until you're both ready to explode. Check out our tips on how not to screw up your next foreplay session.
Want to know if your partner likes to talk dirty? Say something like, "You make me think dirty thoughts." Ease in slowly. It's best to test the waters a bit, rather than immediately go for your deepest, kinkiest dirty talk right off the bat. Here's our guide to talking dirty in bed.
If your partner has a vulva, there's a very good chance they need clitoral stimulation in order to climax—P-in-V intercourse alone isn't gonna cut it. As for the best way to stimulate your partner's clitoris? An Indiana University survey of 1,055 women found that 3 out of 4 respondents like it when a partner traces circles on their clitoris with their fingers or tongue. But if you're not entirely sure what drives your partner wild, ask them!
The clitoris is packed with nerves and super sensitive, so your partner may not want you to touch them there directly. The clitoris actually extends several inches under the skin on either side of her vagina—like a wishbone—which means you can massage it without applying direct pressure. Try tracing the extensions with flat, wide, extra-wet tongue strokes, or slow finger zigzags (don't forget lube). Then rub a slow spiral around the top, drawing closer with each pass. The combination of anticipation and indirect contact will bring those pleasure centers to life.
Stimulating the perineum—the area between your balls and your butt—can feel really good during masturbation or sex. "This area is packed with nerve-endings, so it feels really sensitive," Arlene Goldman, Ph.D., coauthor of Secrets of Sexual Ecstasy, told Men's Health. You can also ask your partner to apply pressure to the area during oral sex.
The orgasm gap is real, and it's great that you want to help your partner climax! But when you make it the singular focus of a sexual encounter—for instance, telling them you don't want to come until they do—you might end up stressing them out and decreasing the likelihood of them reaching orgasm. Instead, read up on closing the pleasure gap.
Here's something you should never ask a person with a vulva after sex: "Did you come?" By posing that question after sex, rather than during the act itself, you're implicitly telling your partner that their pleasure is an afterthought for you—and that's not okay. Instead, make their pleasure a priority during sex itself.
If you and your partner aren't as jazzed about doing it as you used to be, maybe it's time to deviate from your go-to sex positions. Try these easy ways to spice up the missionary or cowgirl positions. Or, if you're really feeling adventurous, commit to working your way through our 50 favorite sex positions of all time.
Dr. Justin Lehmiller, a research fellow at the Kinsey Institute, interviewed over 4,000 Americans about their sexual fantasies for his book, Tell Me What You Want. Eighty-four percent of respondents said they'd fantasized about public sex at least once before, and 29% said they fantasized about it often. “People are turned on by the idea of doing new and different things sexually, which is why fantasies about having sex in different settings are quite common,” Lehmiller told Men's Health. “People also tend to think of sex as something that people only do in private, so taking it public is transgressive.”
Now, we don't recommend actually having sex in public—that could get you in trouble with the law. But there are plenty of ways to safely tap into the public sex fantasy, from dirty talk to virtual orgies to sex resorts.
Here's an idea for a "fantasy lottery": Both you and your partner write five sexual fantasies down on five separate notebook cards. Then head to a restaurant where you can get a booth and some privacy in a public setting. Over dinner and wine, pull out the cards and make three piles: "yes"; "maybe someday"; and "not on your life." Put the items from the first two piles in a shoe box, and once a month—or as often as you like—pull one out to try.
YouPorn's Couple's Chemistry Quiz is another great way to discover your shared kinks.
There are a lot of benefits to quitting smoking — and one of them is better sex. There's evidence that smoking can affect the size and strength of your erection, and that smokers may have smaller penises than nonsmokers. "In addition to damaging blood vessels, smoking may cause damage to penile tissue itself, making it less elastic and preventing it from stretching," Irwin Goldstein, M.D., a urologist at the Boston University medical center, told Men's Health. For tips on quitting, click here.
Think of it as fat-burning foreplay. Exercise will raise your dopamine levels and ease your anxiety. Bonus: Your post-run sweat has androstadienone, a testosterone derivative that can spike your partner's arousal when they smell it.
Yoga has plenty of benefits for men, including improving your sex life. "Because yoga helps people develop a sense of calmness, strength, stamina, agility, knowledge of their own bodies, and the ability to remain in the present moment and make small adjustments, it can greatly enhance sexual performance and confidence," says sex therapist Gracie Landes, LMFT, CST, told Men's Health. Research shows that practicing an hour of yoga every day is linked to delaying ejaculation and boosting your overall sexual performance. It can also help work those all-important pelvic floor muscles.
It sounds simple, but holding hands can work as an aphrodisiac. It shows your partner you're devoted, and proud to tell the world.