When it comes to sex, there is no one single defining factor that makes it "good." There are countless variables, from how attentively a partner listens to and fulfils your desires, to emotional intimacy (or perhaps a lack thereof, if that floats your boat). It's different for everybody, but most people can think back and point to one occasion and say: "That. That was the best damn sex of my life."
In a new YouTube video from Cut, 100 people open up about the best sexual experiences they've ever had—and a couple of common themes quickly began to emerge. For example, several people cited encounters they'd had in hotel rooms, away from their regular everyday lives. Others liked doing it in the car. And one lady got especially carried away at her boyfriend's office. "We ended up having sex on his desk," she says. "We didn't know there was a window cleaner. I guess he was mesmerised!"
The risk of being caught is a turn-on for some, but not all. Other prefer to get their freak on closer to home. "Sex in a house, on the bed, that's me," admits one woman. "People in the car, outside of the car, in the rain, in a park, on the beach, I'm like, you people are banana! Sand's going to get in your vagina!"
A surprising number of people who reveal that they have actually never had what they would describe as "good" sex. "Nothing stands out," says one guy. Others, meanwhile, have fond memories of sex that should arguably be bad. "This guy I couldn't stand," one woman says. "It's great, but he's a piece of shit," says another. "Toxic sex," one guy dubs it. "Like, you know you shouldn't be fucking, but you still do, and that's the thrill."
A couple of others recalled long-distance relationships and times when they had been apart from their partners for a while, and plenty of women responded to the question with stories about "generous" men who ensure that their partner is having a good time.
And then there was the guy whose story of his best time doubled as a piece of sage advice: "Don't have crazy, amazing sex on a bed from IKEA."